Emotion management refers to people's ability to control and regulate their emotions. Emotional management plays a crucial role in personal life and work. In the workplace, emotion management is an essential skill. After seeing too many tragedies caused by emotional loss of control, I increasingly feel that emotional stability and communication skills are already the two most important abilities that working adults should have.
There is really no word "easy" in the life of a working person, especially when you are middle-aged, you not only have parents to support, but also children to support, and you are burdened with mortgage and car loans. Sometimes you even cannot get the understanding of your leaders and customers at work, so our emotions are in torment all day long.When it reaches a certain level, a casual sentence may become the "last straw that breaks the camel's back", and a professional person may collapse in an instant. Behind the emotional stability, in fact, hidden a person's pattern and emotional intelligence. How far you can go and how high you can stand up is directly proportional to your emotional management skills. Those successful people are not without temper, not without emotion, but they can manage their emotions. They rarely lose control of their emotions and vent them at will. Teacher Zhang Lijun once said, "A mind is made bigger by grievances, and talents are gained through hard work. What the workplace needs is adults.", why the workplace needs adults, adults should be responsible for their own behavior, no one likes to take care of the giant baby.
Of course, there will be good times and bad times in a person's life, and everyone will experience the darkest moments in their lives. “Nine times out of ten, life will be unsatisfactory.” Unsatisfactory is the norm, success is often short-lived, and success is preceded by hard work in obscurity and a lonely figure walking forward in the dark. Adversity can often stimulate people's potential, but it can also weaken people's will.
When we appear bad mood, want to vent, want to hurt people, how to control it? We can consider the following ways: First of all, we have to calm down and think, do we do this right? Will we regret it? Sometimes thinking for a while can control your emotions.The second method is perspective-taking. Most of the people we lose our temper against are the weak ones in the team. If we put ourselves in their shoes and think about what we would think if we were the weak one, and how we would be hurt, we would stop. In fact, it is not easy for everyone. Team managers are angry with their bosses, just like their subordinates. They are angry with their superiors and have no place to vent. Third, we can change the environment. For example, when we are about to lose our temper, we can leave this place and go to other places, exercise or go for a walk, which may help us control our temper. In addition, we can also look for people who have good emotional management as role models. Every time we have bad emotions, we think about what the role models would do. What kind of power will he give us to control bad emotions?
For our own bad emotions, after we become aware of them, we must learn to control and guide them. For bad emotions that cannot be resolved in the short term, we can vent them by talking to friends. Being alone will make you indulge in bad emotions, sink deeper and deeper, and even lead to a dead end. If you are under too much pressure at work and feel depressed, you should communicate more with your friends around you and try to ask your friends to help you make suggestions, so that your emotions can be vented instead of being stuffed in your heart alone. In addition, when our work is relatively smooth, we should also think more about it. Don't attribute all the credit to our own abilities. When we are in high places, we should be humble and low-key.
Finally, as adults in the workplace, we should continue to learn, improve ourselves, keep our emotions under control, and separate work and life, and separate work and get off work.Don't suppress yourself or confront others, and create a good working atmosphere for yourself.